Hey Tribe,
Welcome back!
Today I’ve come across a pretty depressing post on the Nice Guy forums.
I occasionally check these boards to see how men are doing these days, and what they cope with.
And there was a great hidden lesson in there about men interacting with other men.
So this guy was married for a year (just a year!) and already there was no sex. But best of all, his wife said he must be gay or have gay tendencies because he is into eating ass, hits the gym a lot, and hangs out with other men.
You know, common stuff (except for maybe eating ass, but y’ll want anal, so there’s that).
Now, over the course of this post, I noticed this girl just has issues. Single mom raised, no real masculine figure, so everything men do is weird. Probably BPD.
But this has another bigger scale issue as well.
Men get shamed a lot about their tribes
See, if you’ve ever read the book “Tribe” from Sebastian Junger, or “The way of Men” from Jack Donovan, you know that men need to be around other men.
You probably feel it inside yourself, but it feels wrong.
Because you’re told it’s wrong.
This society is so heavily feminized, it is so deep in your brain, that it feels weird.
You know, a party with a lot of dudes is a “sausage fest” because how dare you party without women?
Playing poker with your guys is probably “because you had a fight with your wife”
And being into anal, hanging out with dudes, and hitting the gym is “gay”.
Why?
Because in this moment the women have no control over you.
They don’t know what you’re doing.
Maybe there is another hot girl around there.
The issue isn’t, that you might cheat. The issue is that this woman might make you remember that you are a worthy man, other women might want to be with.
And your woman would need to put in some effort to keep you.
I know this might sound a bit bitter, and I am not saying that all women are so insecure.
What I am saying is this, don’t let them take away your manly spaces.
You need them.
Women in male spaces
This is an ongoing phenomenon that women infiltrate every male-only space there is. Just recently a woman won the darts championship. Fine. Good for her. Not good for the men.
Why?
Because men never act the same if a woman is around.
Not to impress her. Because winning against a woman just takes away interest in the competition itself.
You rather win against similar skilled men.
It’s just not the same.
Even if anyone of the guys would’ve won against the girl in darts, it just wouldn’t have been the same. Men tend to not admit such things, because the girls will immediately jump on you and call it “weak”.
Maybe.
But it’s not the point. The point is that men act differently if they are within their own gender group. And it is a very necessary space.
I urge you to meet with your bros alone.
You will notice the difference.
I notice it every time. Most of the time, I am surrounded by women. Just is what it is. I am actively fighting to have time with my buddies alone.
Because it frees me. I can talk as I wish, say what I want, etc.
And that is NOT gay.
How is it gay to hang out with your buddies with whiskey and cigars and talk about conquering the world, the crazy bitch you once fucked, the new car you gonna buy.
How is any of this gay?
It isn’t.
It is healthy. You need it. It will help you, have your mind set straight. Literally.
Don’t let women gay-shame your buddy-meetings.
Tell them they shouldn’t be so masculine by wearing pants. That’s for men.
It’s the same level of stupid.
Enjoy your masculinity. Meet with other great men.
And don’t let women dictate your mindset.
Cheers,